I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and lately he's been feeling like a girl, is more comfortable and happy wearing girl clothes and makeup, and if the surgery wasn't expensive, he would highly make the male to female transformation. I love him but I honestly don't know how I feel about all this. Like I don't want him to become a female but at the same time, I want him to be happy and himself. What should I do? I've never dealt with something like this before.
That’s a tough one for sure. I’m no authority on the subject, but I can definitely try to give the best advice I can.
This must be a very tough And confusing time for both of you.
It is completely normal for you to feel that you don’t want him to change genders. Everyone is who they are, and if you’re not a lesbian, you’re not a lesbian. Just like your boyfriend may very well be a female, and neither of you have any control over these things.
It also shows how much you care that you still want him/her to be happy.
I think that there are no definite or correct answers. But I do think that you Will both need a support system, with one another, as well as an outside person/persons. Someone like a therapist or counselor or support group with experience in this area. I don’t know where you are, but if you tell me your location I will try to help you find different options in your area.
I also think that you don’t need to rush to make any decisions one way or another. Take it day by day. Be honest about your hesitations and ask the same in return.
Ultimately, any number of things could happen to each of you individually and the two of you as a unit. I think if you both agree to make a committed effort to complete honesty and open communication, you will both land on your feet in a happy place.